Not that this is a brand new “Ah-hah!” moment by any means.  Most of us know that most people are not great listeners.  How many times have you felt like you had to jockey for position during a conversation — that someone else was running it and you had to work hard to interject your thoughts?  Or, how many times have you tried to make your thoughts understood and the person you were talking to just didn’t get it?

I’ve found that has happened to me for years.  And, I always thought it was my fault.  That I wasn’t being clear enough or that my thoughts were jumbled and poorly stated.  Or, the worst . . . that what I had to say wasn’t worth listening to and that I, by extention, wasn’t worth listening to.

I’m moving out of that paradigm to the realization that it’s not that what I have to say isn’t worth listening to, it’s that most people aren’t good at listening.  It’s more a deficit on their end than on mine. 

Now, before you follow me into some victim-thinking . . .

I’m not saying that I don’t have a part in it.  For years — maybe for my whole life — I have held a lack of self-worth.  So, I’m changing my thinking.  And, I’m not blaming anyone (no sense in that, my friends — you can create additional karma and bad will) for being a bad listener.

Instead, I’m holding up good listening as a virtue — a worthwhile talent and skill. 

If you’re already a good listener, you are a cherished gift to many people.  If you’re not, you may wish to put some attention on learning to be a good listener.  There are many resources and methods out there, but be sure that you have a genuine desire to improve your listening skills as you go about learning how.  Otherwise, it’ll just sound like you learned techniques.

Good listening comes from the heart.  And soul.  The desire to make a true connection with someone.

We’re connected anyway — how about living it to its fullest?

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